First world problem

As social media and web 2.5500 become bigger parts of modern life, weird and new situations are bound to arise.

Take this one.

When doing my usual FB perusal (which is to say, randomly clicking on pictures/comments/profiles), I came to the shocking realization that I had been defriended.  This wasn’t unthinkable, it’d certainly happened before, but usually with good reason or by a person I didn’t really know/like that well from the beginning of our  e-relationship.  This person was someone I went to college with, someone in my circle of friends, someone who had lived on the same floor.  As I tried to figure out why she would defriend me, Facebook taunted me.  “You and (name withheld) have 27 friends in common!”  It might have well have said “Here are 27 people (name withheld) has decided to keep as her friend!  Including that guy who has probably owed her money for so long that it counts as theft!  And that creepy guy who is one of the reasons you don’t use Facebook chat!”

The thing is I don’t really care.  I’ll probably never see this person again.  But it’s too bizarre to let go.  Why did they defriend me?  Have they always sort of just tolerated me and now are relieved to get me gone?  Did I ask for it?

national unfriend day

Well.  Okay.   Maybe.

The thing is, in the past, this would have just sorted itself out.  There wouldn’t be some tangible button that had to be pressed to let people know we had fallen out of touch, it would just happen.  We’d see each other at some reunion and it would be No Big Deal, because that’s how things work.  Nowadays and in the future, we’re going to have these weird social media faux pas that no one will mention, because it seems petty to do so, but EVERYONE will know.

someecards.com - Let's promise we'll always stay close friends but ultimately settle for periodic glances at each other's Facebook status updates

Because I really don’t care.  I really don’t.  But I feel like I should be able to call someone out who defriends me on a social networking site.  To say, yes, I realize you did that, no, it was not unnoticed.  This feeling probably evolves out of the constant recognition that social media sites give us, but it’s still there.  It seems like our social niceties are being challenged and our culture hasn’t quite come up with the appropriate reaction.

So maybe it’s just inaction.

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